Hi lovebug,

I have a friend who has been contemplating a move across the country.

She’s been thinking about it for a while, and this year she decided that YES, she’s moving.

After she started making plans her brain decided to chime in…

Are you sure that’s a good idea?

You’re going to have to pack up ALL your stuff?

Moving’s hard. And sweaty. And exhausting. 

What if you don’t like it there?

Do you really think life is going to get that much better somewhere else? 

She called me in an ever so mild panic saying, “Am I sabotaging myself with this move?! Did things just get good here and now going to go and mess it up?!”

We chatted for a little while and I asked her this one question? 

What does your soul want? 

You can’t access what the soul wants through your thoughts. 

The soul sends you a FEELING. 

The idea of staying put emitted a neutral feeling. It was… fine. (If that.)

The idea of moving was more zingy. It felt scary, for sure, but it was an exhilarating feeling. 

Your body needs safety. That is its number one goal actually: to stay safe.

Some women, like my friend, not only need safety, but also certainty.

When safety and certainty are absent, her brain alarms go off and she interprets that as “Oh no! Is this the wrong decision?!” 

Instead of - It makes sense that I’m feeling this way because I’m moving out of my comfort zone and that feels unsafe and uncertain (even if my soul knows it’s my right next move.) 

I see this all the time with my clients who are considering leaving their relationship or their job or even taking a step away from their normal routine.

ANYTIME you decide to make a change, your brain is going to be a punk.

It’s going to tell you’re wrong. It’s going to confuse you and overwhelm you and try to talk you back into whatever feels NORMAL and safe.

But sometimes babe, you’ve got to go out on a limb. That’s where all the fruit is. 😉

If you fall into the “Ack… do I stay or do I go?” category when it comes to your relationship, I’ve got you. 

Lauren and I are excitedly working on a REALLY cool (omg babe, it’s SO GREAT) course that’s going to help you tune into what your soul is craving. 

And it’s not just another thing that you read and then forget while you absentmindedly go back to panic scrolling to avoid your life. 

You know my products are all about changing your brain and calming your nervous system so you can powerfully make a choice that’s right for you. 

Intrigued? Get on the list for the Good Girl’s Guide to Breakups here. 

If you’re thinking, well ugh, I can’t wait for that OR I’ve got a big decision to make that isn’t about my relationship, you can do a single session here. 

That may be just what you need. 

Remember babe… your brain is a punk, but your soul knows what’s up. 

Rebecca*