Hey lovebug,

When I was little, I was a super shy kid. 

Even telling someone my name felt excruciatingly difficult—Re-bec-ca has so many syllables when you’re first meeting someone and tongue tied. 

Because I was so shy and sensitive, I often pulled my energy back. It felt easier to fade into the background to stay safe.

For that reason, I also often felt ignored or dismissed. 

These days? Total opposite. 

 I speak on stage. I teach huge groups. Cars stop so I can cross the street. Strangers smile. People listen.

I feel seen and respected, and it’s honestly lovely.

So how do you shift from feeling invisible to feeling acknowledged — at home, at work, and out in the world?

Here’s what helped me: 

1. Fix your posture. Walk tall. Sit up. Pretend you’re wearing a crown. Pay attention to the world around you. Breathe. 
2. Be present. Be okay being in your body. Stop messing with your hair. Stop clicking your pen. Stop hiding in your phone. Keep your chin level and your gaze soft and steady. Be there.  
3. Act like an adult. Watch any tendency to revert to acting like a young child. Yes we all have an inner child, but they shouldn’t be driving the bus of your life. Adult vibes. 
4. Ground. Send roots down through your feet. Send a line down from your tailbone and anchor it at the center of the Earth. Tell yourself to ground ground ground. Breathe into your belly. 
5. Respect yourself. When I get front row parking (which I often get) I say “Spot for the queen!” as I pull in. You can call yourself whatever you want as long as it feels empowering and respectful. No negative name-calling. How you treat yourself is the treatment you’ll get. It starts with you. 
6. Be respectful of others. Beam love from your heart. Decide that most people are good. Say please and thank you. Open doors. Be helpful and genuinely kind. State your appreciation for someone. Breathe. Smile with your eyes. 

When I do these things, it doesn’t matter if I’m dressed up and showered or walking Mabel in a messy bun — people treat me with kindness and respect.

Listen, you don’t have to change everything.

You just have to be in the world differently.

Try it. 🙂

And… if reading this makes you squirm, you probably have trapped emotions making you feel unsafe to shine or even be seen. 

Releasing those emotions is the fastest way to feel confident, grounded, visible, and radiant — everywhere you go.

REMINDER: 

My 1:1 package is increasing in January—from $2997 for 6 months to $5000 for 5 months.

4 of the 6 spots at the current rate are already taken. 2 are left.

If you’re tired of feeling dismissed and ignored, now’s the time to commit. 

Don’t walk into 2026 feeling small and unseen. 

Send me an email at [email protected] with “I’m in” to claim one of those 3 spots and let’s change your life. 

Rebecca*