The moment that changed my life

Hey lovebug,

Twenty-one years ago this week, I was going through Thanksgiving while undergoing chemo for ovarian cancer.

I wanted to feel normal, eat all the delicious food… but the chemo was wrecking my stomach. 

I was nauseous nonstop. Too tired to run a 30-minute errand. I shaved my head because watching my hair fall out felt unbearable. Everything hurt — my scalp on the pillow, my clothes on my skin, my stomach all day long.

The drugs were worse than the disease.

I’d moved back to Virginia to be with my dad and started chemo with a doctor who’d been recommended. 

Truthfully, I never wanted chemo — the cancer was stage 1, no family history, and they hadn’t found it anywhere else. But my oncologist said she’d “sleep better at night” if I did it… so I did.

First round: I immediately had an allergic reaction to Taxol. My body went red and hot, like fire in my veins. They switched drugs and I pushed through two more rounds, feeling absolutely horrible. This was supposed to be healing? Sure didn’t feel like it.

At my next appointment, I told the doctor I was done. I wasn’t doing 12 months of chemo.

He got in my 26-year-old face and barked, “NOW YOU LISTEN HERE, MISSY.”

He was furious that I had made a decision about my body.

I remember sitting there trembling. I was twenty-six, sick, unemployed, already $50k in medical debt — and this man was yelling at me because I said no to him. 

And that’s when something shifted.

I had spent my whole life people-pleasing. Never saying no. Especially not to an older professional. But that day, I did. And honestly? I think that’s when my real healing began.

One word — no — and I took the reins back on my life. 

This is the foundation of the work I do with my clients: helping them reclaim control of their own damn life. 

Whether it’s a demanding job, a messy relationship, or old childhood conditioning… so often, the root is the same:

They keep saying yes when some part of them is screaming no.

My package prices are increasing in January — from $2997 for 6 months to $5000 for 5 months.

3 of the 6 spots at the current price are already taken. 3 are left.

If you’re someone who’s still saying yes when you know you need to say no, reply I’m ready and one of those last spots is yours.

First come, first served.

Rebecca*