Hi lovebug,

Think of a problem that’s happening in your life… any problem. 

Got it?

Now, I can tell you what’s at the core of that problem and it’s the same for you, your partner, your family members, your friends, your neighbors and even me.

I bet you’re going to say, “It’s just because I haven’t found an answer to XYZ problem yet. That’s all.”

Or it’s because this other person won’t change…

Or it’s the economy…

Or the government…

Or the patriarchy / capitalism / sexism / racism / ableism… 

I mean - all of those things COULD VERY WELL BE CONTRIBUTING. For sure.

But honestly? 

None of them are the core of what’s going on. 

The core is one very simple and incredibly persistent thing. 

It’s your feelings.

Your FEELINGS are at the center of every single problem you’re having. 

Period. 

I remember being part of a BIG business coaching cohort years ago. 

I would jump on a weekly group call with forty-five people (out of the 200+ in the group) and the conversation with a client would inevitably go something like this:

Client: I’m having trouble getting on sales calls. 

Coach: Did you watch the video module on sales calls?

Client: Yes, but I can’t get myself to do them. I’m too scared.

Coach: Well, you’ve got to get into the habit of doing them. That’ll make them less scary. What about asking a fellow cohort member to practice with you?

Client: I guess I could do that… but I feel bad asking. I don’t want to be a burden.

And it would go on and on and on like that with every single person. 

I remember sitting there thinking, “These people don’t need any more tactics or strategies. They need to clear the emotions holding them back so that it’s not stopping them at every turn!”

And of course, that’s the work I ended up doing. 

If you’ve got money problems, it’s about your feelings.

If you’ve got relationship problems, it’s about your feelings.

Work problems? Feelings.

Boundary problems? Feelings.

Procrastination problems? Feelings. 

ANY problem? 

Yep. It’s about your feeeelinnnnngs. 

Which is why my work focuses on? 

(everybody?)

FEELINGS. 

That’s right. 

Next time we’re going to talk about what most people do instead of feeling their feelings (and how to get out of that habit).

If you’re wrapped around the axle about a particular problem and you haven’t addressed your feelings about it (and cleared those emotions) - it’s time. 

You can book a single Emotion Code® session here and we’ll do just that. 

Rebecca*