she wanted to leave him

Hey lovebug,

I had a client a couple of years ago who was in a marriage where things just felt… off.

Her intuition had been nagging at her for, well, years, but things never felt certain enough to leave.

She knew two things:

1. She wasn’t happy (at all).
2. She needed a change.

Our work together was figuring out what change she needed in order to make her feel happy again.

We started the normal way: meeting for an hour and a half while I let her pour out all the stories from their decades long marriage. 

As she talked about it, I could feel the rage, the betrayal, the disgust, the sadness, the overwhelm and the exhaustion pouring out of her.

(And we hadn’t even started the real work yet.)

Over the next six months we took the cringey, icky feeling out of memories about suspected cheating, about her being seen as “the best thing that ever happened to him”, about him not being there for her during her hardest, darkest moments.

And then one day, she knew. 

It was over. 

She was brave. She filed for divorce. It took some time and it was challenging (I won’t sugarcoat that.)  

Now they are (mercifully) co-parenting their kids together while she lives a much happier life. 

Here’s the thing: She’d been thinking about this decision for twelve years. 

It took her months to get clear and take action once we started working together. 

I’m not blaming her. It is, in my experience, the norm to wait until you feel SURE and getting that feeling of certainty can take years and sometimes decades.

We want our relationships to work, especially when there are kids and pets and property involved.

Hell, we want them to work when there isn’t any of that involved! 

We don’t want to start over—even if that may be the absolute best thing for us.

We want our past self to be right about the choice we made to be with our partner.

We really want our partner to show up the way we’d imagined they could.

And so we wait. 

As you clear all the stuck emotions out of your system, you will become SO much more clear. 

I see it all the time. 

If you can relate to this client, now’s the time to take action. 

You don’t want to wait another year to live a happier life. 

Take advantage of my 10% birthday gift to you and sign up for the love package. 

Use the coupon code BIRTHDAY when you pay in full. 

I can’t wait to help you feel happy again. <3

Rebecca*