Hey lovebug,

You know how all those spiritual teachers online (me included, lol) are always telling you to surrender?

UGGGGHHHHH.

Don’t you just want to tell them to SHUT UP already?

_*laughing*

No? That's just me who thinks that? 

_{*still laughing*}

Well, I can get so annoyed with someone when they tell me to “surrender”... and I finally realized why the other day. 

I don’t know how to do what they’re telling me I’m supposed to do!

Surrender? 

Like, I’m not a sailor being taken over by a pirate ship.

I don’t have a little white flag to wave.

I’m just over here walking my dog and sipping my decaf coffee and writing love letters to you.

So how the HECK am I supposed to surrender? 

To what? 

To whom? 

But then I realized that I’m getting caught up in the word surrender. 

I’m thinking of this word surrender as in - to give up - like in a competition or a fight—but that’s not what spiritual teachers are suggesting.

Here’s what I finally understood this week: 

When you are living in a state of resistance (not political, but personal) – you are not living in a place of surrender.

When you say “Ugh! Why is it so cold? Why is it raining? Why do I have to wake up so early? Why is that person driving so crazy? Why isn’t this person texting me baaaaack?” 

RAWWWRR!

I DON’T LIKE THIS THING THAT IS HAPPENING and I DON’T WANT IT TO BE THIS WAY. 

That, my sweet one, is living in a state of resistance. 

When you push against reality, you are resisting what IS. 

Reality is: 

It’s raining. 

It’s cold. 

You’re tired because it’s early and you need more sleep. 

People drive crazy sometimes.

People don’t always text when we want them to. 

All of these things are happening and when we are resisting them we are living in a state of suffering. 

There’s some good news though!

I learned this formula from David Bayer and it is the uno reverse for that suffering mindset. 

Here’s how the formula goes. This is so great: 

1. State the thing that you don’t like: It’s cold and rainy outside.  
2. Then say: I don’t like it.
3. Then say: But it is what it is
4. THEN SAY: And I accept it.

THAT IS SURRENDERING. 

_{*wowwwwwww* <<< mind blown} 

Okay, now you know how to surrender!

You also know what resistance looks and feels like. 

AND - now you’re going to realize that you’re most likely spending all freaking day in a state of resistance.

And lemme tell ya honey, living in resistance is exhausting. 

But we’ll get into that in Part 2 of this discussion. 

Stay tuned for next week.

Rebecca*

PS: There’s been a lot of spiritual lessons like this and intense healing going on in my psychic medium readings the past two months. BIG STUFF. It’s time to book yours and see what you can psychically shed before the month is over.