Hi lovebug,

Okay… so, if you’re not a Ted Lasso fan, I mean, not to be dramatic, but like… what are you doing with your life?!

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No, I know, I know. It’s not for everybody, BUT, I love the show.

I can relate to Ted from my days coaching sports and when I watch now I still pay attention to the ways that he interacts with people. Yes, it’s a TV show, but there are some masterclass moments in the writing and acting too. 

Here are four high level lessons I’ve gleaned from the show:

Spoiler alert: If you haven’t watched the show, this email will make more sense after you have. It’s on Apple TV. Go watch. 

1. You can’t rush a transformation. I’ve been in the transformation business a long time. I worked as a synchronized swimming coach, then as a Zumba® instructor and now as an energy worker and psychic. And —in every one of those positions — I finally realized that it didn’t and it doesn’t matter how much energy or expertise I bring to the table, people will transform at their own pace. Some folks move VERY quickly. They’re hungry, they’re ready, and the stars have aligned for them to change. Others will change slowly, bit by bit. Some will push back against what I see for them intuitively and then they’ll return years later and say, “Welp. You saw in me what I couldn’t see in myself. And you were right. Look at this amazing thing I’m doing now!” But you can’t rush anything. And that’s actually pretty beautiful. (Show reference: Ted knew that the players and the whole franchise would transform with love and care. It took time, but it couldn’t be rushed.)
2. Trust and love are just as important as strategy and structure when it comes to being successful. I love Ted Lasso because he leads with love, acceptance, grace and story. Throughout the show you see him gain the trust of some very frustrated, cynical, wounded and angry people. He doesn’t seem to shame anyone in the process. I think when it comes to running a household or a business or a department, we can lean pretty heavily into the nuts and bolts of getting things done. But I have seen the magic that happens in a household, organization or department where people feel like they MATTER. When the boss knows their name, treats them like a human, sees their potential. I believe these soft skills are underused and undervalued by most leaders. 
3. Don’t be cool. Be warm. There’s a guy named Jacob Collier, he’s an incredible musician, who made an Instagram where he looks directly at you through the camera and says, “Don’t be cool. Be warm.” I love that reel and it comes to mind when I find myself getting too fussy with what I think others will think of me. It’s FAR more important for me to show up authentically, grounded, and a bit dorky, because that’s how I truly am, than to try and armor myself up to be cool. Ted Lasso is a bit like that. Warm, authentic, grounded and a bit dorky. He also doesn’t care because that’s him. I find that the people I admire the most are the ones who are loving and warm and not the ones that are “too cool” for me. Being warm has gotten me farther in life, and made me feel better in the process, than trying to be cool ever has.
4. Get more curious. One of my favorite episodes is when Ted beats a real asshat of a guy in a game of darts. He’s so kind and non-chalant and yet absolutely wallops this guy in front of a crowd of folks in the pub. He talks about how he finds that guys, like the asshat, rarely ask many questions. He says that if he had asked any questions, he might have found out that Ted played darts every Sunday with his dad for years. I love that scene. When I’m working with clients and they report getting into an argument where they immediately get defensive, I often say “Did you ask why they were saying xyz? Did you get more information?” Oftentimes, they are so busy defending themself or making up a narrative about the comment, that they don’t think to ask any clarifying questions. (totally normal btw). However, if you GET CURIOUS, you might find that the person asking the question wasn’t being demeaning or insulting at all. But that’s how you took it. Being curious can create connections in a way you don’t expect. 

Now I bet if you’re a Ted Lasso fan you could come up with twenty more life lessons from the show, but these are the ones that are resonating for me right now. 

If you take even one to heart in your life or business, I guarantee you’ll see a shift in how people relate to you and in how you experience others as well. 

And if you want some help with the process, I recommend an Emotion Code® single session. 

Clearing out the trapped emotions that help you to get curious instead of defensive or that enable you to be authentic instead of masking, is a quick, but powerful, process that happens on the subconscious level. 

Make sure to make the session during a time when you can rest afterwards because we are changing your brain and it can be tiring to let go of generational baggage. 

If you’ve got questions, you can always reply to this email. Otherwise, you can book your session here. 

I can’t wait to see what comes through for you. 

Rebecca*